I’m so excited to announce the release of my first children’s story book, ‘Matilda Learns a Valuable Lesson.’
For the past 25 years I’ve always used a story from my childhood when teaching children Protective Behaviours. The story isn’t about sexual touching but does talk about unwanted touching, and I have found that children easily relate to this situation. I wanted a way to share my story with more than those who were in Protective Behaviour Classes, and so ‘Matilda Learns a Valuable Lesson’ was born.
Matilda is a story about a young girl who has an uncle who gives her a ‘No feeling’ which makes her feel unsafe when she goes to visit. Matilda also has a teacher who teaches her class about Protective Behaviours, and it is from these lessons that Matilda gets the help to deal with her unwanted touching problem. This book covers Early Warning Signs, Networks and the importance of Persisting.
I would really encourage adults to use their own stories from their childhoods, as long as they aren’t about abuse, because children can especially relate to their own family members and stories about which they are familiar.
I have a friend who uses a story from her childhood. When she was young her Grandmother had a precious glass unicorn that my friend would look at for hours. She was told to never touch it. One day she picked it up and held the unicorn, only to feel so nervous and guilty that she managed to break it. She was devastated and thought that she would be in huge trouble, so to avoid getting into trouble she took the precious unicorn and buried it in the back garden.
She never confessed to her Grandmother about the breakage, but every time she went to visit her Gran she felt sick. It really affected their relationship, which was a great shame because they were very close before that incident.
Years later her Grandmother confided to her that she had known about the broken unicorn that day when it happened. She had found it in the garden, but had waited for her granddaughter to own up about it. This story reaffirms that ‘we can talk with someone about anything,’ and was a good lesson about how our worries and fears are sometimes in vain, and particularly children’s worries, as sometimes they are based on immature thought processes. Children need to have this Theme reinforced over and over again.
My friend had no way of knowing how her Gran would have reacted, but in hindsight she would have done things differently to avoid the negative impact it had on their relationship. Please use your stories with children so they can learn through them.
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Product of the Month: Matilda Learns a Valuable Lesson
This book is an invaluable safety resource for those with or those who teach children and a powerful tool for children of all ages and cultures. The end of this book has resource pages for adults, which include going over the main points of Protective Behaviours, and giving specific information to effectively and efficiently deal with receiving a disclosure from a child.
Price AUD$20.00 (inc. GST)
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